What is your biggest fear?

Biggest Fear

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  • Dying

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Berserk

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PureElegance wrote:
really? :( For some reason I didn't think of you being that way :B
I'm really glad you didn't think so! lol.

I decided it wasn't helpful in overcoming it by talking about it that way, which is why I deleted my post (::meev::). And now I just made things awkward methinks...

But yeah, I'm so envious of/enthralled by people who can just naturally open up and connect to everyone (like elec)--I really hope people like that realize what a strength it is and how much it improves their lives.

Also, I missed Lem's post--Lem, your struggle sounds just like mine. My first job was a major step in overcoming it though, so maybe your work environment can be helpful to you too. There's really nothing more you can do than metaphorically plug your nose and dive into social situations, though. It's scary, but close your eyes real tight (figuratively :P) and forget about what you're doing--that's what I try to do.
 

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Berserk wrote:
PureElegance wrote:
really? :( For some reason I didn't think of you being that way :B
I'm really glad you didn't think so! lol.

I decided it wasn't helpful in overcoming it by talking about it that way, which is why I deleted my post (::meev::). And now I just made things awkward methinks...
Yeah, sorry I caught it ::kisaki:: ...I liked your post so I couldn't let it go XD Don't worry, things aren't awkward! But I honestly didn't think you were so shy! D: I know I don't really talk to you a lot but for some reason I was surprised ::kisaki::

I'd write more but I must go! XD
 

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Jae wrote:
Well! One of the reasons I am terrified of dolls is thanks to a My Buddy doll. My grandmother, being the horrible succubus she is, decided one day that she was going to horrify me into a coma. She knew that I hated dolls...those damn sibling dolls especially, so she went out one day and bought me a My Buddy doll.

While I was at school, she took the My Buddy doll, taped a huge kitchen knife to it's hand, and then hid it under my covers. When I got home, I noticed something tucked under my sheets. Much to my surprise, there was a My Buddy doll, knife in hand, laying in my bed.

I was only 7 when this happened. :|

Oh god. My mom did something similar to this but it was an on going torture. Despite my entire family knowing my irrational fear of dolls, my abuela bought me a ventriloquist dummy. I don't know why. My mom would get a real kick out of periodically moving this dummy through out the house. On chairs staring out the window, in my bed, and once even in the bathroom. Can you imagine being five or so, waking up to pee, only to find it there (WAITING??) ? D: He looked just like the one in the center, here.

Long story short- dolls. dolls. dolls. dolls. spiders are creepy too. But I like them both in a weird sort of way too?
 

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Thanks for the shoutout, Berserk. :) It sounds like you're already on the right track.

I used to have fears of rejection and all that stuff, but I'm going to guess that you've spent lots of time cultivating some pretty interesting things about yourself that anyone that won't at least think "hey, nice guy" upon first meeting you are going to be few and far between. Guaranteed. I believe everyone has a latent, hidden ability to brighten peoples' days just by being themselves, if they just let go. The Human Business is to help each other out, and it's hard to be afraid of attachment/growing closer when you learn how to love your Job. :)


monsters are still scary though
 

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Lem wrote:
I don't know if I can consider it a fear or an anxiety issue but I have a very hard time talking to people I don't know. (Yes I'm shy :( )

If person initiates communication with me first I can usually talk with them with out coming off as awkward and weird. Yet me starting the conversation is not going to happen I just can't get myself to even say hello sometimes. This also leads to things like if I’m lost I won’t ask for directions. It was really bad when I started in my new department because when I needed help with something it was really hard to ask someone.

I also will freeze up which leads to awkward times where I'm silently standing next to someone but simply can't start the conversation.

I also can't stand being in front of groups of people, even if I'm not the one speaking. Now speaking in front of people, I stutter, slur, mumble, stare at my feet and make a big mess of things haha.

I'm exactly the same way, haha. Weird, I somehow thought you would be a very outgoing person who wasn't shy at all. :P

Anyway, I'm seriously trying to break free of this, though. Actually, I've changed a lot in three years. It used to be so bad that I couldn't order food for myself since I had to talk to someone I didn't know. I can do things like this no problem now...so, I guess I'm getting better. ^^;
 

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I think I'm pretty okay with the list of options, so I guess my fear comes as 'Other'. And what I fear most is falling in love.
 

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^To Berserk and Lem:

I can completely empathize with both of you. I have horrible and I mean HORRIBLE social anxiety. As I've gotten older it's eased up a bit, plus being a teacher for years helped my fear of social situations/having to be around large groups of people, but it's still very much there.

I am an incredibly shy person in real life and still find it increasingly difficult to open up to strangers, friends, even members of my own family. There are only a few people with whom I feel completely and totally comfortable being around/talking to, and when they are not around, I get very panicked and feel sick. People often think I'm stuck up or bitchy when they first meet me, because I either don't say much or I use sarcasm to break up the tension I'm feeling.

I know how hard it is to feel this way and I feel your pain!!
 

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My biggest fear is dying, or more specifically the fear of not existing/thinking/feeling... Sometimes it encroaches on to my thoughts sometimes and paralyzes me with fear. I've learned how to quickly overcome it by thinking of something else or mentally yelling "STOP!" but it still sucks.

My other big fear is losing my mother. To be honest... I'm a bit afraid to move out of my parent's house because I won't be able to see her every day anymore. Sometimes I worry I'll wake up one day and she'll have died while I was sleeping, or I'll go far away somewhere and she'll die while I'm gone, before I can get back to her. I love her so much and I know that I would fall apart completely if she were to die all of a sudden. I'm pretty sure I'd have to be institutionalized. :cry:

This thread is like an emo blog in places.... :lol:
 

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Jae wrote:
People often think I'm stuck up or bitchy when they first meet me, because I either don't say much or I use sarcasm to break up the tension I'm feeling.

Oh god, that's so me.

My biggest fear is having to speak in public. Like, I can't think of anything more terrifying (well, I mean, other than being raped and tortured) than having to stand at a podium on a stage and give a speech to a crowd of people. People wanted me to give a speech at my high school graduation and I had to decline because there was no possible way in hell I could do it. Luckily this is the kind of phobia where you can avoid the object of your fear pretty easily.


But my unavoidable fear is blood. Needles, transfusions, blood donations, bad cuts. I just start to think about blood and I start freaking out. I'm getting anxious just typing this. It's only getting worse as I get older which sucks, because as I get older the chances of me having to go to the hospital and have blood drawn go up. Oh god, I have to stop thinking about this...
 

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Susan wrote:
My other big fear is losing my mother. To be honest... I'm a bit afraid to move out of my parent's house because I won't be able to see her every day anymore. Sometimes I worry I'll wake up one day and she'll have died while I was sleeping, or I'll go far away somewhere and she'll die while I'm gone, before I can get back to her. I love her so much and I know that I would fall apart completely if she were to die all of a sudden. I'm pretty sure I'd have to be institutionalized. :cry:
Ok, you seriously made me tear up with that :(

good job on making this emo! ::meev:: XD
 

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PureElegance wrote:
Susan wrote:
My other big fear is losing my mother. To be honest... I'm a bit afraid to move out of my parent's house because I won't be able to see her every day anymore. Sometimes I worry I'll wake up one day and she'll have died while I was sleeping, or I'll go far away somewhere and she'll die while I'm gone, before I can get back to her. I love her so much and I know that I would fall apart completely if she were to die all of a sudden. I'm pretty sure I'd have to be institutionalized. :cry:
Ok, you seriously made me tear up with that :(

good job on making this emo! ::meev:: XD

Hey, I'm not the only one. Read this entire thread... it's an emo convention!

Sorry for making you cry. I cry sometimes too. :cry:
 

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elec wrote:
monsters are still scary though
uh duh theyre frickin frightening
Jae wrote:
^To Berserk and Lem:
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I know how hard it is to feel this way and I feel your pain!!
Time to form a support group! Bashful Buddies, Unite! (Faith and Iskanderia and any other shy person not-mentioned included) ::meev::

But seriously, I think this thread this great. Quite a few people are really opening up about their feelings. It's not something you see a whole lot of around here.
 

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When I was a kid, I had a talking mother goose that would move her head, eyes, beak, and wings telling the story of the tape that you put into her side.

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(and yeah, I had hector there, too)

She was fine during the day time, but once it was night, she had to have the batteries taken out of her (I insisted), and put back into her box and into the closet with the door shut. I always thought she was going to come to life and start talking to me once the sun went down, and the fear became so irrational that I even had a dream at one point that I opened my closet and there she was, working without her batteries, and looked at me and said, "Hello there, mary. Want to hear a story?"

Suffice it to say, I ran screaming when I woke up into my dad's room. :|

Oddly enough, the little duck, there, Hector, never really bothered me. In fact, I kept wanting to hug him but my dad said no because he thought I'd break him. XD

She doesn't really bother me now, though. These days I just think that every time I get into a car I'll be involved in some way with a car accident and really go blind this time or something. XD Yay for accident trauma....

PS: I *do* still have both mother goose and hector- they both still work if you hook them up together- and we still have a majority of the books and tapes that we bought for her when I was little, as well as mother goose's birthday outfit. Seems all of that stuff together is worth a FORTUNE now, so that's pretty awesome. XD
 

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Berserk wrote:
Time to form a support group! Bashful Buddies, Unite! (Faith and Iskanderia and any other shy person not-mentioned included) ::meev::

But seriously, I think this thread this great. Quite a few people are really opening up about their feelings. It's not something you see a whole lot of around here.
*joins and stays waiting for the first support club meeting*
 

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When I was younger, my biggest fear was being in large crowd. When I was around 13 or so, I used to have horrible anxiety attacks in public, where I'd get all sick and would even throw up(which led me to the discovery of cyber school). My social anxiety has gotten better over the years, but sometimes when people I don't know start talking to me I can seem quite standoffish. I don't mean to be, I'm usually just "omg wtf do I do D:"

Nowadays, I have a ridiculous fear of spiders and ticks. Not any other bug/arachnid/whathaveyou. Just spiders and ticks. ::hora::

edit: Also had another huge fear throughout high school, but I'd rather not discuss that one.
 

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Priss wrote:
faith wrote:
I'm afraid that I'm crazy.

Weird, perhaps, but can you imaging not being able to distinguish between reality and fantasy?

I'm sure that fantasy is reality for me. I often see fairies, trolls, imps and dragons flying in the city sky.

It just means that you have found a better reality than the current reality. It isn't such a big deal actually. They do have a fancy name for people who can't seperate thoughts from reality. I see it as an alternative reality, since we humans aren't qualified to define reality.

Anyway, I don't have any big fears, or let's say, not any fear that really matters.
 

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I'm scared of heights. Because every time I'm close to an edge of something high, I get this really really strong feeling of wanting to jump out so I can feel what it is like. I don't know. I'm not suicidal :p But the higher it is, the more I want to jump, and I need to hold on to something or step away because I'm so scared of following that impulse.
Eh. So I just stay away from heights. And really wish to go skydiving sometime so I actually can jump out, and maybe will be ok after.



Other than that, I have a phobia for snails and slugs, so bad that I have thrown up or almost fainted just because of the sight of them D:
 

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Spiders can make me cry :(

They freak me out so much.
 
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